It was August 23rd, 2017….just 5 years and 1 day previous, I brought her home from the hospital. God, how could it possibly be her first day of Kindergarten!! I thrust my camera into my husband’s hands:
“What do you want me to do with this?” he says.“Take pictures, it’s a camera!” was my reply. “You’re so much better at it,” he says, “you should do it.” “Yes, I know, but I can’t be in the pictures if I am TAKING the pictures”, I pressed on.
As a Cleveland family photographer, I spend a LOT of time photographing families. I catch moments of joy and happiness, interactions between family members…I get to see a ton of happy smiles! I spend hours and hours BEHIND the camera, and hardly any time in front of it!
He grumbled and complained that they wouldn’t be good, and that I wouldn’t like them, and was I sure that I couldn’t just take them myself. (And honestly, I thought about that too….really, he won’t know the best angles and I am going to look terrible, and…..oh geez, who cares you need the pictures, Jessie!) But eventually, he “got the picture” and snapped a few photographs of me with the kids. And very quickly thrust the camera back into my hands.
Do I care that they aren’t perfect? Does it matter that there were only a couple clear pictures (and a ton more that were blurry)? I don’t care, and it doesn’t matter!! What does matter is that those pictures exist. My youngest daughter, my itty bitty (not so much anymore) baby, will have these photos to look back on. Photos of her very first day going to school with her older siblings…and her Mommy, fighting back tears as she puts her last little baby on the school bus!
Ladies, press your husband/wife/partner/boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other to take more photos of you with your children! Don’t worry about how you look. It doesn’t make a difference to your kids if you’re wearing makeup or if you’re wearing yoga pants or if you are having a bad hair day. Someday they will be looking for memories of you with them, hugging them, spending time with them! They will be happy to have the memories and they won’t care! And someday, when they are grown and have families of their own, YOU will also have those oh-so-important memories! So encourage your partner to pull out that smartphone they have stuffed in their pocket, and encourage them to snap a few pics of you doing every day things with the people that matter to you most!!
**Spoiler alert....she got on the bus, and I bawled like a baby for the next hour! But....I did manage to capture a few great photos of her being her silly self!**